How today turns out is up to you. How any day turns out is up to you. Oh, it is easy to point the blame, to project all of your frustration, anger, and angst on others … to find excuses, point fingers, and focus outward, but that is not why you came here. You are in a human body to round out you … to experience all that life in human form has to offer and choose the highest offering of all as often as you can: Love. We are not referring to the human kind of love that is conditional. You know that all too well. Aim for unconditioned thoughts and actions … the kind that come from the very core of you. As you align with those unconditioned thoughts that arise from pure Being, you will find yourself being the kind of human being all humans know as attractors. Like a moth to the flame, there’s no place like Home, and the heart is where you find it.
You are so very loved.
Wish you the best of luck, whatever the outcome today!
Thank you, Suzanne, for this beautiful reflection and reminder.
PS. I so appreciated the choice of “unconditioned” rather than unconditional. Gave me fruitful pause.
I would like to thank you, Suzanne, for your daily messages. I am swamped every day with emails, many of which go straight to the trash folder. Yours, however, I always open and read because they lift me up. They inspire me to be and do better.
I am grateful for you.
Thank you.
Blessings aboutnd, Tove! I’m so pleased the messages speak to you. Are you by any chance related to Gina in Wyoming?
This is a timely reminder and I am grateful for this.Thank you so much!
Thank you Suzanne.
Today was a beautiful sunny and pleasant day. On my hike I met nice people, always enjoy small friendly ” small talk” with strangers. At the poll I chatted with the person infront and behind. All – it was uplifting.
Life goes on tomorrow and after and I pray that there will be no violence.
Love and light
Brigitte
For the most part, I understand what is being said here. But something rubs me the wrong way but I’m not quite sure of what. Mentioned is the human kind of love, conditional. But that’s not love. That’s like saying that blue, the feeling and the color, are both kinds of…what? Feeling blue and the color blue are about the same definition as love, conditionally and unconditionally.
Unconditional love is beyond my grasp at this point. I don’t think I can tell you about it, or describe it to you, let alone feel it. Don’t feel sorry for me. My life has been great! Some emotional ups and downs; some physical ups and downs. When I try to get a balance on my scale of life, it always comes out for the best. I might be having a bad day, but I’m honest with my life. I have hit the lotto of friendships. I’m 63 years old and have never taken care of my body, yet it remains, for the most part, healthy. That said, I couldn’t tell you the first thing about unconditional love. I don’t trust me to be honest even if I know what unconditional love is. Yet I maintain that I’m clueless.
But the word love and love, like blue and blue, have totally different meanings. I know one kind of love. It’s when my emotions are for trade. You give me this, then I’ll give you my emotion of love; I’ll like you; be your friend; protect you on some level. I don’t even have to get mine first. I’ll be your friend and protect you first, then I want what we agreed upon from you. And if you’re not forth coming with our agreement, I unleash another emotion on you; sorrow, from which I hope to draw pity from you. But those are just the details. It’s an agreement that we have made, spoken or unspoken, that we give one for another. Unconditional love is beyond my comprehension, though I want to say the human concept.
Maybe unconditional love is like numbers. Most humans have no real discernment when it comes to large number such as trillions and quintillions. Some do. But I’m not sure those who can differentiate between the numbers are in the 50th percentile. If I said that I’ll bet it’s the same with love, that the 50th percentile could not differentiate between a trade and unconditional love, I suspect most people would vehemently disagree. But maybe I don’t know nothing about numbers, blue or love. Everything is possible.
Hi Carmelo. I’m inspired to invite others to comment on your comment. I know this will lead to a very interesting conversation. Please note that the word used in the message from Sanaya is “conditioned” love, not unconditional. See how that changes the interpretation …
Don Miguel Ruiz might add some perspective to this conversation in his book ,The Four Agreements. The book is a gift of Toltec wisdom and an in depth discussion of each of the 4 agreements: 1) Be impeccable with your word, 2) Don’t take things personally, 3) Don’t make assumptions, 4) Always do your best. Powerful discussion.
The words, “I love you” were not words I heard often growing up, though my needs were always taken care of. Spanking was an over use in my childhood by a controlling parent. I have come away not knowing how to continue in relationships when a difficult situation comes between me and someone else – most recently with my daughter. She let me down in a very large way, and I do not know how to overcome that trust betrayal. I never thought she (of all people) would let me down as she did. (Maybe some unrealistic expectation on my part?)
I see people use the words “I love you” as a synonym for other words: “goodbye,” “I care,” “I like that,” “that tastes good.”. I FEEL love most in a beautiful flower, or colorful sunset, or magnificent view, or a sweet puppy. Maybe love is best felt in the moment with no expectation? But Society teaches family, family, family.
Some good reminders, thanks!
Hi Carmelo,
I’d like to share my experience and understanding of unconditional love. I hope it can give you a deeper understanding. I agree with you that unconditional love as a concept can be beyond our understanding. In my life it was not until it became an experience and not just a concept that I began to grasp its depth and significance. Like a fish that doesn’t know it’s swimming in water, we all swim unwittingly in a sea of unconditional Love. Our very existence is constantly arising from this conscious field of being. Like a small child who believes their parent disappears while playing peek-a-boo, we have to develop our consciousness to higher levels to better understand our true reality.
A better understanding will come from experience. Our experience of unconditional Love is hampered by our personal beliefs and thought programs through which we our constantly judging life. We run everything through the filter of our ego, comparing, contrasting and judging. It is by letting go of some of this constant judgement that we start to experience the higher reality of Love as a state of being and not as simply an emotion.
As to how to gain the experience, I can only recommend what seemed to help me personally. And that was the practice of “constant” prayer. I found a short prayer or mantra that was meaningful to me and got into the habit of repeating it as often as possible throughout my day. Whenever my focus wasn’t required elsewhere I would repeat my prayer over and over. As this developed into a habit, the blessing of Love began to appear, Love for the people I saw, for nature and for God.
I hope this helps you on your journey. And remember, we will all get there eventually.
Love ;-)
Mike
Some thoughts and re-membering based on your post and the comments:
Judging and criticizing another is a fear-based action that results in separation, and is never the remedy. We believe it makes us right and the other wrong, massaging our ego and keeping us safe (we believe), but separate. To know who another is, is to realize the Divine that has come as them, and not confirm the identity they present as a small-self (personality).
We are here as part of our soul growth, to experience, in love. The agreements we make upon incarnation are to learn, and to grow through this learning, and any interaction with another is an opportunity for this, if we let it be. If we choose to make friends with someone, we learn through a friendship. If we choose an enemy, we learn through that relationship as well. As each relationship is an opportunity to learn, the equality of the being before us must always be understood as the opportunity to know the Divine.
Loving ourselves and others (true freedom), not just those who agree with us (wouldn’t that be easy and convenient) is the lesson before us. The lifting-up of self and others is the only path to freedom for humankind. We can leave no one behind in this effort. We can help raise the vibration of those around us simply by raising our vibration (being the example, the light). Our thoughts, emotions and actions help to create/influence our vibration, moment by moment.
High-vibe thoughts/emotions include: gratitude, forgiveness, optimism, empathy, love, generosity, joy, peace, calm, purpose, flow, abundance, fulfillment, compassion, humility, kindness, humor, acceptance, etc.
Low-vibe thoughts/emotions: resistance, anxiety, shame, anger, hatred, self-doubt, jealousy, fear, blaming, victimization, etc.
Sometimes we’re high-vibe, and sometimes we’re low-vibe, and that’s okay. We’re not meant to ignore, disregard, or run away from our (low-vibe, especially) thoughts, emotions, or experiences, but to learn from them. That doesn’t mean to clutch them and hold-on for dear life. What is the lesson behind our (good or bad) experience? Once we answer that question (this may take moments, months, years, or lifetimes) we can transform the experience into growth, knowledge, wisdom, love, etc.
Thankfully, we don’t have to stay in our low-vibe thoughts/emotions to learn, although some of us do so through choosing to be a victim and enduring the suffering that comes with our unmet expectations. In fact, I believe it’s necessary to move to a place of love to fully understand and incorporate the lesson. Once we realize (being mindful, in the moment, here and now) we are not in a place of love, we can sit with the thought/feeling/experience in prayer, meditation, contemplation, yoga, breath-work or Being in nature (or whatever works for us) and shift our thoughts and feelings, and learn/grow.
The choice is ours, individually and collectively. Let’s choose to raise our vibration! Who’s up for it?
Unconditional Love – human love
I always thought I do love my children unconditionally but I believe now that we all put certain conditions, expectations on it. I love my husband, my soul mate and my children from the deepest level a human can love but I know it is not unconditionally.
I think sometimes I get a glimpse of unconditional love, how it feels, when I do something to help out another human or animals with no expectations to get anything back, no expectations for recognition or even without the other person knowing it was me doing it. It leaves me with a feeling of “home”. Filled with light and it is touching something I forgot about.
I know that I am far away from being able to recognize the light in everyone, no matter of behavior, ethnicity, fashion, age, gender etc. But I am working on it and I try to remind my self through out the day as much as I can.
We have a saying in Germany “look beyond the edge of your soup plate” meaning, look at and care for people and things outside of your comfort zone, your family, your kind. We are all so conditioned and it is hard to break free..
There was a meditation at the IANDS meeting yesterday where they said “and light fills you like honey pouring into you from the top of your head, through every part of your body”. That resonated with me, sticky substance, flowing through me, just staying there. I felt like that could be love, never leaving, always present for any other soul, connected with the sticky love of their’s.
Thank you Suzanne for putting yourself out there and teach us all and send Sanaya’s messages to us. To do so takes courage and love.
Very well said.
I believe Unconditioned love is our true nature. This is when your spirit shines through your soul!
“Be the change you want to see in the world”