When another asks you to do a favor and to do so goes against your best judgment, what do you do? Why is it challenging to say no? First, examine why you are not saying yes. You wish to be helpful, loving, and kind, yet “yes” is not always the proper response. If, indeed, your “no” comes from the highest place, and not from a selfish stance, then simply respond from that heart space. State your “no” with the same loving kindness that you would state a “yes”, were it appropriate. You do not always have to make excuses or explain yourself. Blame it on your heart if you must. When you come from the heart, that heart energy dissolves barriers. You are so very loved. Knowing this helps you to have healthy boundaries.
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Dear Suzanne, and Sanaya,
Thank you for the most appropriate message.
I’ve been deliberating on a situation where I want to say ‘No’, but not wanting to hurt the person.
This message has encouraged me to be true to myself. Thank you so much.
Lourdes
The hardest thing I’ve ever done was to say No to my daughter when she wanted me to co-sign a house lease. She is in her mid-forties, divorced and has two teenage daughters . She makes more money than we ever did. But she’s never been able to manage her money. She’s borrowed thousands of dollars and repaid only a very small part. After I told her no, and that I was so sorry, I cried. It hurt so much. But I knew she must no longer come to me for money or financial support. I would do anything else for her or the girls, but I will not be here forever, and she must learn this important lesson.
Thanks a lot to Sanaya and Suzanne and Bev and all others involved in doing these daily messages. They are ALL good.!!!
A few days ago I came across the interesting words; “You can’t say YES until you can say NO.” These words led to some musing and asking others for their view/s. From the mists of time the book titled “When I Say No I Feel Guilty” has been recalled.
And now today Sanaya has again come up with the perfect and true answer that gives guidance for all to act in the best way that is for the ‘greater good.’
Gratitude and blessings aplenty to all.
Thank you for sharing your divine guidance!