You are an eternal being.  You could remain the same as you are now without changing and you would have eternity to try another tack.  But why wait?  Evolution is ongoing and its going on all around you.  It is easy to stay in the same patterns of interacting with others.  You did not choose the path of being human for the easy way out.  Being human is one of the most challenging curricula in the galaxy.  You came here because you are up to the challenge.  The question is:  can you do all with love?  Can the love that you radiate be without conditions?  You are not alone in your struggles.  Look around you:  you are all works in progress … masterpieces being revealed chisel by chisel.  You are so very loved.