You are in this together. Pity, you were taught to go it alone. They say, “No man is an island,” but even islands are not separated from the mainland. Take away the water and what do you have? Contiguous land. You are all interconnected. So, when challenges arise, most especially in your interpersonal relationships, go to “we” instead of “me, me, me.” Shift your point of view higher and expand it to include the wholeness. Compromise, compassion, caring, cooperation. Do you C? You are so very loved.
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That is exactly what John Donne meant in his poem – on message nearly 500 years ago:
No man is an island,
Entire of itself,
Every man is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manor of thy friend’s
Or of thine own were:
Any man’s death diminishes me,
Because I am involved in mankind,
And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls;
It tolls for thee.
Wow – how cool to read the whole poem, Denys! And to see that two well-known lines came from it (“For whom the bell tolls”)! Thank you!
Thank you Suzanne. I am a fun of you, and I know, all you say is true.. All you send to me. is valuable. and I take it like this.. Love and Blessings. keep well. and Joyous. Peace and Bliss.
Please replace Compromise with Collaboration. When people compromise, their subconscious minds remember what they didn’t get, which negatively impacts their future interactions. The compromise process ultimately results in a combination of coercion and capitulation, when people are finally tired of the back and forth, so they simply give up and settle for the least unsatisfactory solution. And they both walk away feeling like they lost. On the other hand, collaboration is a creative process that brings the head/mind together with the heart/soul to reach a new solution that is totally satisfactory to all parties.
Thank you so much for your insightful daily messages.