Joy bubbles up. Grief bubbles up. Each comes in waves. Can you control the bubbling up? Notice carefully. Each simply arises. Once the arising has occurred, now you co-create what follows. Where does attention go? What if you merely observe each arising? Then you are not knocked off balance by the waves. Ride them out. Feel them fully and en-joy the variety of life without labeling experience as good or bad. You are here for the experience. Live fully.
You are so very loved.
How do you enjoy the rides
Hi Hortencia – I became a widow a few months back, and want to share what I learned this year through my grieving process:
For me, the answer is to first acknowledge that the grief is happening (“Here it comes!” when the wave starts) and then to accept it completely by breathing deeply and keeping the throat open all through the wave. The grief will flow unimpeded and it will flood through your brain and cells with power, and you’ll realize that the power behind all the grief is love. Grief is a profound testament of love; full of gratitude, empathy, sorrow and tears.
When I would feel it coming on and say “Oh no!”, well, I wasn’t accepting it: And my throat and chest would constrict as I tried to stop it. It was like trying to stop an oncoming train with my bare hands. When I’d say “Oh no!” the grief hurt even more and I was cut off from the feelings of gratitude and love: All I noticed was the pain.
Now, when it happens and I can feel the love and gratitude as well, this I can enjoy at a sacred level: I feel humbled and blessed in many ways.
I hope that helps some.
This message has given me food for thought as it concerns anxieties. Like joy and grief, there is a lot of emotion and history behind what triggers anxiety. The thought of stepping back and observing where this comes from does shift and ease those feelings. Watching the “wave” from the perspective of my higher self may take some time, but is definitely a goal. Thank you, Sanaya!
Enjoyed the writings and positive thoughts