It is quite possible to be so focused on surface appearances and issues that you miss the underlying cause.  Do not berate yourself.  It happened.  Now dig deeper.  What lies festering there that bubbles up as other symptoms?  Most humans do not want to deal with messy things.  Who does not love love and light?  And yet, because all is the expression of the One, you will encounter light and dark.  Do not be afraid to expose the darkness to light.  Oft times the greatest gifts are hidden there.  You are so very loved.