If you are empathic, you are sensitive to others’ emotions. You feel their pain at times as if it is your own. This can be, for the human, a blessing and a curse. We wish to bring you greater understanding of what happens when you reply to another’s woeful tale with the words, “I’m sorry.” You further take on and take inward their woe. Do you not have enough to carry around? We are not telling you not to help another with a burden. Today we wish to empower both you and the other with two far healthier words than “I’m sorry.” Say, instead, “I understand” and follow these words with appropriate words such as “… what you are going through.”
You have been programmed as a human to say “I’m sorry,” and then you immediately feel sorrow. Your personal vibration goes down. With understanding, you feel instead compassion for all concerned and can act from a higher and healthier place. Feel the difference.
We understand that being human is not always easy, and we surround you with love.
Hi Suzanne, I am wondering if a moment of “tuning in” would precede the statement, “I understand.” I am only speaking for myself, but when I am in the presence of another whose burden of sadness and pain is radiating in their energy, I can’t honestly say, ” I understand. ” without a preliminary step.
I find that I can allow myself to be an “observer of ” rather than a participant in their pain if I take a few seconds to get to a place of stillness within myself. Then there will be a message for me in their energy that will provide the starting point on a roadmap to take me to a place where I can walk beside them in accompaniment without taking on their pain.
I will, however, understand and can at that point say truthfully, “I understand how upsetting (sad ,,etc, etc) this is for you.”
As for “I’m sorry”. … It used to be an important part of my vocabulary, but it dropped away a few years ago! ? xobarbara
Thanks for this astute comment, Barbara. Of course, the best results occur when we take that moment to pause and tune in to higher guidance! It’s an excellent goal for all of us! xxoo
What an empowering tool for me, a once hopeless ’empathetic.’
Felt instant relief. Thank you Suzanne/Sanaya for sharing your wisdom.